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Essence of Courtship

Courtship is defined as the period of a romantic relationship before marriage or the act of paying attention to somebody with a view to developing a more intimate relationship. In societies in which individuals choose their own partners, young people typically date prior to marriage. Dating is the process of spending time with prospective partners to become acquainted. Dates may take place in groups or between just two individuals. When dating becomes more serious it may be referred to as courtship. Courtship implies a deeper level of commitment than dating does. During courtship the individuals specifically contemplate marriage, rather than merely enjoy one anothers company for the time being.

Courtship may lead to engagement, also known as betrothal—the formal agreement to marry. Couples usually spend some period of time engaged before they actually marry. A woman who is engaged is known as the man’s fiancée, and the man is known as the woman’s fiancé. Men typically give an engagement ring to their fiancée as a symbol of the agreement to marry.

In the past, dating, courtship, and engagement were distinct stages in the selection of a marital partner. Each stage represented an increasing level of commitment and intimacy. Although this remains true to some degree, today these stages have tended to blend into one another. For example, modern dating and courtship often involve sexual relations. Studies indicate that most of the young people now have had sexual intercourse in their teenage years. Furthermore, the contemporary mate-selection process frequently includes the practice of cohabitation—living together in an unmarried sexual relationship. Cohabitation often precedes marriage, but in some cases, people continue to cohabit without entering the bonds of marriage.

In general, people tend to date and marry people with whom they have characteristics in common. Thus, mate selection typically results in homogamous marriage, in which the partners are similar in a variety of ways. Characteristics that couples tend to share include race, ethnicity, religion, economic status, age, and the level of prestige of their parents.

A lot of factors may be taken into consideration in courtship. But the very essence of courtship is that it is a positive affirmation on both sides. It is a positive statement or declaration of the truth or existence of one's love towards another and the assertion of agreement towards the other.

a Bright Future for children

Many psychologists believe in the existence of more than just one type of intelligence.

American psychologist Robert Sternberg suggested intelligence to consist of three components: analytic (“school smarts,” as measured in academic tests), creative (a capacity for insight), and practical (“street smarts,” or the ability to size up and adapt to situations). Another American psychologist, Howard Gardner, whose intelligence theory is widely accepted today, proposed a different model of intelligence. According to him, their is the existence of multiple intelligences, each linked to a separate system within the brain. He theorized that there are seven types of intelligence: linguistic, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, interpersonal, and intrapersonal.

Scientists of today pronounce that a child is capable of developing any of the different types of intelligence. With this discovery, parents are now privileged to opt for any of the types of intelligence that they want to develop in their children. But this special advantage is

only available during the early years of a child or the formative period. According to neurologists, brain cells responsible for the different types of intelligence are all active in the early years of a child but those frequently used are the ones that develop as the child grows up while those less used are terminated by the brain. With such a limited period for enhancement, parents must exhaust the privilege during the formative years. This is achieved through stimulation of the child on the particular aspect that is opted to be developed. For a child to enhance its bodily-kinesthetic intelligence, it has to engage in activities that are focused on developing the gross-motor. With such early stimulation, there is a great possibility of developing a superb athlete in the future or a great musician by frequently exposing the child to music. However, this is not an assurance for the attainment of the child's maximum potential in the chosen field. Positive affirmation must be constantly provided by parents towards their children to increase the probability of achieving what was opted. Positive affirmation refers to the assertion of support by parents on their children. As the child grows up, parents should see to it that the child engages in activities in line with the chosen field to keep the child in focus and to prevent confusion. A child engaging in different kinds of activities may not only end up in nowhere and mastering none but may also waste lots of considerable time that would have been used for his benefit if only it were activities in line with his field. Assertion of support by parents include financial supports wherein parents are to sustain their children financially such as provision of equipments necessary for the child's development in the chosen field. Equipments suited to the child would greatly facilitate in enhancing his potential. Parents should also give active help and encouragement to their children. When a child seems to falter, parents should always be there to uplift and help him get back on his tracks. With positive affirmation from parents, success of a child in the future can be guaranteed.

What is the secret to success? How did business tycoons and other

great personalities from different walks of life succeed in their specific fields? Was it pure luck? Or was it something else?

Some may point out a lot of positive attributes which could lead one to success such as being hard-working, persistent, determined, creative, persevering, enduring and many more to mention. But does one have to possess all or a couple of those mentioned qualities in order to reach the heights of success? Truth be told, a person need not possess all or a couple of such qualities in order to succeed in his chosen endeavor. What one

needs to be as successful as the aforementioned individuals is simply a positive

affirmation. A positive affirmation is a positive thought affirming

that a desired goal is within reach. It is the counterpart of pessimism

which only takes into consideration the negative or worse aspects of all things and to expect only unpleasant or undesirable things to happen.

Positive affirmation denies everything that pessimists stand for.

It is taking hold of a positive thought or a positive statement which in effect elicits in the individual the positive attributes mentioned earlier thereby producing a positive manifestation of his desired goal.

With positive affirmation, one bolsters his capabilities which in turn makes him more vigilant, enabling him to take into account even the

smallest glitch for the purpose of assuring his success. Positive

affirmation is like a will to never give up and to go beyond the borders

of failure.

Success of business tycoons and other great personalities in various fields of interest were all made possible due to the positive affirmation they held within.

Unsuccessful people are those who fail even before trying while successful people try and keep a positive spirit that they will succeed.

For a person with a weak ground  is more likely to fail than one with a stronghold.